Monday is my rest day, AKA day 7 for my P90X friends. My plan was to go to the gym and do some light weights and tan but it was really cold, and i got out of work really late with the start of a headache so i decided it was a better decision to come home and go to bed instead of pushing myself too far and making myself sick. While a laid in bed with an ice pack on my eyes waiting for the pounding to go away i really took some quiet time to reflect on the last 13 months of my life.
2010 was a very busy year for me. I had
alot going on in my life, my kids grew a whole year older, we sold our first home and moved into our brand new built for us home, i made some huge changes in my work and started watching Grace which allowed me to be home all day with my kids and put my energy into my family and friends, and recently some people who i was very close with have shown their true colors and I've had to remove them from my life.
I've really struggled with the loss of some friendships that really meant
alot to me, and i am still struggling with the void that has left in in my life but in a conversation i had yesterday with a close friend, she really helped me realize people that can not accept me for who i am, and how i put myself out there are not people who deserve to have my love and loyalty.
I am a handful and i am aware of this, as are the people around me that love me and i keep close in my life, both family and friends. I sometimes say the wrong thing at the wrong time, when i get really stressed or overwhelmed i lash out on the ones i love, or shut down all together and withdraw into my own mind and lose track of my actions. I am a very passionate person, and to some that comes across as competitive. I am not perfect and i know this.
But i am loyal. I love life and i love the people around me more than anything else. I will stand up for my family and friends every single time. I am always there for people when they need me regardless if they can see it or not. I am very straightforward and honest. I try my very best to not judge others who have a different lifestyle/relationship/financial situation than my own. You never have to guess with me i always present myself at face value and i am very honest. If something is bothering me i will tell you, if you're doing something that i thing you will regret later i will tell you, if you want the honest truth i will give it to you every single time. I will never say anything behind your back that i wouldn't say to your face. I would never ever do something to a friend or family member with the premeditated intentions to hurt them, no matter how upset i may get and if i do end up hurting someone i love it really does eat me up inside. I love my friends like i love my family and i will always always be there for them.
What i will not do is let people disrespect me, disregard my feelings, forgive actions that are set out to intentionally cause me hurt and pain, and generally walk all over me. If you can not accept me for who i am, the good
AND the bad then i don't have room for you in my life. I'm getting too old to deal with people who can't be upfront an honest, people who talk about me behind my back, or people who think it's
ok to do things with the premeditated intentions to hurt people they are close to. It just blows my mind how many people i have kept close to me that don't see the real me, who don't accept me for who i am and who can turn so quickly and stab me in the back and the heart all at the same time.
I do miss the people i have let go recently, i would by lying if i said otherwise, but those holes are being filled by the people around me that love me, and who accept me for who i am. And to those people i have to say Thank You! Thank you for accepting me for who i am, and for your unconditional support. It really does mean the world to me.